I was born into a household with a very angry father and a mother who sought to deal with that anger by ignoring it. Showing anger was a very bad thing and must never be expressed, consequently I was beaten or chastised every time I expressed my own anger. I soon learned to mask my anger, to push it down and I learned that lesson very well.
As the years went on I became more and more angry inside. Life had a way of putting me in situations that triggered that anger. I can recall one situation when I owned a computer sales and repair facility in my hometown of Peterborough Canada. My mother had just passed away a few days before and I did not deal with that well. I was angry at myself for this and took my anger out on everyone around me.
On this particular day I was dealing with two young men who came into my store to buy a computer. They were like young men everywhere, trying to appear more knowledgeable than they really were. For some reason they really pissed me off and one thing led to another and before I knew it I literally tossed them out of the store. That is not good for business especially in a small town!
I was not a fun person to be around. I just couldn’t relax and I always felt like I had a tiger inside me just waiting to jump out. People around me could feel that anger and many were actually afraid of me, and for good reason. They could sense that I was a tinderbox just waiting for the next spark. It’s very difficult to like yourself when you so angry and the worst part is, I didn’t even know why. I didn’t have a clue.
I learned to cope as many do. I read book after book on the subject and understood it all on an intellectual level, but the anger and the rage remained. Untouched by my efforts to “understand it”.
The cost of unexpressed anger on a personal level can be enormous. It slowly eats away at your cardiovascular system, your stomach and throws your nervous system into chaos. When you become angry it’s like suddenly you’re on a dark railroad track heading for God knows where. You stop thinking and start reacting. You literally go unconscious and from that unconscious state almost anything can happen and none of it good. It can destroy relationships, jobs and cherished dreams for the future. In an instant!
A good percentage of people currently serving time in prison are there simply because they could not control their anger. Unexpressed anger costs everyone billions of dollars a year to treat its physical effects on the human body and on society as a whole.
Below you will find a daily plan to release your anger completely. It takes only 10 to 15 minutes a day and lasts 5 days. At the end of that period most if not all of that inner anger will be released and all you need to do is follow the plan. If you haven’t already done so, please read the ZPoint Quick Start Tutorial to install the ZPoint Healing Program and gain an understanding on how to apply ZPoint to yourself. You my wish to print it out and have it handy as you work through each days exercise.
Day 1 – Think of the last time you became angry. Allow yourself to feel that anger within you and repeat the following statement to yourself:
Whenever I think about or remember becoming angry, I feel…
This will bring any unexpressed anger to the surface where you can release it using the Process. Simply read each clearing statement one at a time as outlined in the Tutorial. Remember to repeat your cue word like a mantra after reading each statement. When you finish, you’ll feel much much better. It’s really very simple yet profoundly effective in releasing the unexpressed anger within you.
Please note that most people repress their anger which means that you may not be fully in touch with how angry you really are. Many people who have used this exercise report that they may actually feel more angry and irritated after going through the exercise for the first time. This is not a bad thing as our intention is always to release the deepest aspects of our anger so that we may free ourselves to live a much more peaceful and pleasant life.
If you find this happening to you, simply go through the exercise again. Each time you do so, you will be releasing more and more of that anger.
Day 2 – Carry out the above exercise again. You should find it much easier to get in touch with your anger and going through the Process will make you feel wonderfully relaxed and peaceful.
Day 3 – Make a list of the things that trigger your anger. Be honest with yourself. Think of these triggers as you repeat the opening statement, “Whenever I think about becoming angry, I feel…”
Day 4 – Go back over your list of things that make you angry. Do you notice a change in how you respond to the items on that list? You may find that some items no longer bother you at all. Think of the ones that still upset you and go through the exercise again for those items. During your day, pay close attention to your actual response to those things that make you angry. You should now begin to see a big difference in how you are responding.
Day 5 – Pull out your list again and read it over. Typically many items on that list won’t bother you at all. If anything remains that upsets you, go through the exercise at least one more time until you are feeling wonderfully relaxed and peaceful.
A very effective way of doing this is to do it with a friend, especially one who shares your anger issues. Set a time each day to meet in person or on the phone and go through the days exercise. A few minutes a day spent releasing your anger together will pay huge dividends to yourselves and to everyone you meet.
One final note. Most people who take the time to release their anger notice that they begin to lose weight. I think this is a very pleasant side effect of releasing the deeply held anger within themselves. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if it worked the same way with you?
Please try the above 5 day plan and let me know how you make out. I’d love to hear your success story. :-)
Grant
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